So here we go.
1. Yes. We know what causes "that." After 3 kids we finally figured it out.
(Excuse the vulgarity but I'm just answering actual questions we got for all the world to see.)
2. No, Ken is not going to start keeping "that thing" in his pants. He did that before we were married. He doesn't have to anymore.
3. Neither our math skills nor our sex ed skills are lacking, thank you very much. In fact we could teach a class. And Bonus, our "trusting in God's plan for our life skills" are doing just fine too.
22 comments:
I am always blown away to hear people have that reaction to three! Seriously.. three?? A friend of mine told me she got the same type of response to her third and I was just shocked. I wonder, does it get better the more you have because perhaps after a certain point they just think you're nuts and leave you alone?! I only hope I can find out myself!
People are so stupid. It's proof that you're a wonderful person for NOT hitting them.
I can't wait to see what happens when #4 comes along (I'm just assuming...).
You're the woman Beth!!!
I hate this! I actually got comments when we first got married and inlaws would ask how many kids we wanted and I said 8 but now I'm okay with more! hahaha
But it was bad and that was just my dream and it was slammed to the ground with the children are burdens in our culture of death mentality. It actually used to make me cry because they were so public in their bashing right to my face.
God give me the babies so I can fight this battle! I can not even wait for it!!! Sucka face, they have met the wrong woman to disgrace my babies to my face! Oh heck no I have fought too long and too hard...Not gonna happen! hahahaha
Okay, I'll calm down....We need good one liners! ;)
I hate this! I actually got comments when we first got married and inlaws would ask how many kids we wanted and I said 8 but now I'm okay with more! hahaha
But it was bad and that was just my dream and it was slammed to the ground with the children are burdens in our culture of death mentality. It actually used to make me cry because they were so public in their bashing right to my face.
God give me the babies so I can fight this battle! I can not even wait for it!!! Sucka face, they have met the wrong woman to disgrace my babies to my face! Oh heck no I have fought too long and too hard...Not gonna happen! hahahaha
Okay, I'll calm down....We need good one liners! ;)
Forget them! Easier said than done, obviously.... but you know that you're blest to be in this position and you have tons of people supporting you & happy for you! :D Congrats!
I'm seeing more and more people in our society just assuming that EVERYONE knows married couples have two and then they're done. The other assumption is that (if you're fertile) you DON'T have kids past 40 (and this is evidenced in the # of 40-somethings having abortions after their ultrasounds... 1 coupld had only 1 other child, a 3 year old. WTF???!!!)
When we tell people the gender, and if they already have 1 of that gender at home, they seem so upset. I always say, "well, you can try again next time!" and they look at me like I'm crazy. "Oh, there will be NO next time!" they laugh. Oh yes, that is just SO freaking funny to me, the barren woman scanning your beautiful healthy womb with your beautiful healthy child from whom you plan to intentionally withhold younger siblings.... grrrrrrrr...
OH MY GOSH!!! This is just so ignorant and downright rude.
I read this before Mass and then couldn't stop thinking about you at while I was there. I felt so heated for you!
You are a graceful, beautiful Mama...
Ughhhh! These comments drive me insane! I am sorry people can not share in your joy. While adoption brings different types of comments, we are still supposed to be "done" at two. Adopting close in age is also a no-no. We were told we were "crazy" and "brave" on many occasions. We want more children and have learned to keep those desires to ourselves. Even close family doesn't understand. It is very sad. Heaven forbid if we were ever blessed with a surprise pregnancy. I am sure people would assume it was an "accident" and that we were upset. Anyway, I am sure I have said too much but I need to vent. I think I need a blog! Blessings to you, your family and your new addition!
Unfortunately, this doesn't surprise me. I know quite a few people who have 3 or more, and get those same comments. It really makes me upset, too. I can't believe how many people have made comments to us about hoping we have a boy this time since we already have a girl. Someone in Monte's family even said, "I hope you have a boy, since this is your last chance." And she was shocked and speechless when I told her I hoped we would have more. Everyone assumes we'll be done at two kids, since that's what everyone else does!! Grrr . . .
So unreal! We are expecting number two and over and over again we hear "are you hoping its a girl and then you are done?" NO! Good grief, what has gotten in the water. Totally "culture of death" coming out! :(
I remember before my wedding my grandma asked me how many children I hoped we would have (she had 7) and so I told her, in front of everyone, that I hoped to have a houseful like she did or as MANY as God wanted to bless us with. To my amazement, no one asked again!!! hahaha!
People are really funny with their comments and they actually think they are being helpful. Ever since a few people have found out we are expecting (praise God) they feel it is their duty to break it too us that all will go downhill from here! People, enough already!!! We got into this with our hearts on fire for God's will, with tremendous love in our hearts, and with our eyes wide open!! Congrats on #3, don't let anyone rain on your growing parade!!
It is NEVER appropriate to comment/question a person's family size!!!! Whether they have zero or 10, it is a PRIVATE MATTER and not dinner table discussion!
Oh, don't get me started on this subject! I have lots to say! People are so rude, and so stuck in the Culture of Death mindset.
But one positive note: Once I got to six kids, people seemed to start enjoying it and cheering me on to have more. Maybe like I was a circus freak show, but still, they seemed to be okay with it.
TCIE, I don't know how you can take it.
It's so sad that people can't see the beauty in God's children. I remember growing up the most insulting things people would say to my mother about her having 8 children! Of course she also looked very young for her age, so there were even nastier things being said untill she told them how old she really was! haha.
Keep having those babies girl! If I could I would! :)
Send em my way for a tongue lashing.
-the ninth of nine, darn glad my parents let God decide..
:)
A friend with four was asked when she was going to start her own reality show...seriously?! Ridiculous!!!
The comments will get less and less with each subsequent child as people realize their badgering is fruitless!
My favorite response is.... We just like to keep it organic in the bedroom! Guaranteed to shut them up immediately.
Re: #1 . . .Not to be nosey, but WHAT does cause it? Seriously, I’m desperate here :)
I’m with Brenda and think it is very rude to remark about the size of anyone’s family – whether no children or a dozen. My mother and I got in an argument about this once because she made a snide remark about a cousin who has many children.
Hey, if you are blessed with five or more you might find that you only get positive comments. ;) My husband still hears some of the more critical/crude remarks, but I just get smiles and encouragement.
Yep, isn't it amazing? I was shocked when I started hearing people's reactions to couples having a third child. Since we have "one of each" now, we've gotten so many, "so now you're done!" comments. I'm with Brenda--how is it anyone's business to comment?
Oh, this post would be funny if it weren't so sadly true. Just out of curiosity do you ladies think it's more of a secular vs. religious mindset or more about regional/geographic attitudes? What I mean is since I'm from the Northeast I wondered if it's just like that in more urban areas?
I used to work as a nanny for a family with two boys, and I heard the mom's friends react negatively when she said they were trying for a third. Then when they found out they were expecting twins, everyone acted as if it were horrible news, like someone had gotten cancer! All they did was point out negatives and I think made the experience rough on the mom. As a teenager at the time I was just shocked that four healthy children could be considered a "burden" in any sense of the word. It kind of opened my eyes to a different world.
Well, I'm a freak show at #8, so there you go... *GRIN*
Seriously, though, it reminds me of the receptionist at my OB's office. She had the "million dollar family" (as she called it) of one boy and one girl. She said her husband begged her to have more, but she always laughed and said, "if you want more, you have 'em!"
Well, tragically her son died in college.
When I came in for baby #5, I was a bit sheepish around her. She looked at me with tears in her eyes, told me how she had reacted when she was younger, and then said, "I wish to God I could go back. I'd do it all differently. I'd have as many children as I could. It wouldn't replace my son, but having a big family would be such a consolation. DON'T LET ANYONE KNOCK YOU FOR WHAT YOU'RE DOING. You just keep having as many babies as God gives you."
So, words of wisdom from my OB office. God bless you, Connie (the receptionist)!
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